You gotta learn to live with regrets. Even the people at the top of the life (to the outside world anyway) have to make choices between actions, feelings, etc. I think Tony Robbins is known for saying energy flows to what you’re focusing on. That’s why you shouldn’t have a plan B or side hustle. If anything, it should be a hustle with many streams of revenue, but still just one hustle. That new show Ordinary Joe is a story about regrets. I don’t even watch it to know. It’s a story that shows three different lives of one guy.
People find the multiverse very romantic to think about. You know, the idea that in some parallel universe you are living out your dream life. Hate to break it to you, there’s no dream life. There’s just this life, even if there is another you in another universe in the grand simulation, the way things are set up, time moves forward. There is no rewinding the clock on the day or your life for that matter. That means, you have to make decisions that sacrifice one outcome for another. Want to pursue a career in one field means not being able to do it in another.
I’ve had a hard time with this. In 2001, I went into finance convinced I wanted to be a stockbroker and manage money. I went head first and was mildly successful compared to other things I could have done. I didn’t see the forest for the trees though and made some very bad decisions. In 2008, I was convinced that I had my dream job. At the time, my dad had built an incredible energy efficiency product and we had started to set up contracts with big companies like UPS, FedEx, Frito-Lay, Pepsi, and other Fortune 1000 manufacturers. We were looking to book over 7-figures in the first year, then he died. Heart attack. In a parallel universe, he would have gone to the doctor and checked out all his body systems annually. Now my whole family has to learn to live with that regret.
Point is, life is nothing more than a series of decisions and some you’ll regret. You have to make them though. This was a note to self.